Tsue ~ That's What She Said: Best Mom Tips: Top 4 Tips For Surviving The Teen Years

Monday, June 14, 2010

Best Mom Tips: Top 4 Tips For Surviving The Teen Years

Now that my kids are officially out of school, I'm looking forward to the next few weeks with positive anticipation. My injury is keeping me off work for a bit longer so I have a wonderful opportunity to spend some quality time with them, sans some of the usual hustle and bustle. Since this is a rare treat, I'm determined to make the most of it, especially considering their ages.

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I was so fortunate to be able to stay home with my daughter, from birth until she started a full-time holistic preschool. I have such fond memories of those lazy summer days and she loves hearing about her antics.

My daughter, is 14 going on 25. She'll be a (shudder) sophomore in high school next year. Yesterday I had the pleasure of signing her up for driver's ed classes. I cried like a baby for nearly a half an hour, once the call was completed.

MOM ALERT: If you are the mother of a preteen daughter, proceed carefully! The junior high years both regretfully and fortunately, fly by at an unprecedented pace. Regretfully because, if she's putting her family on the back burner to make more time for friends now, you haven't seen anything yet!
Make the most out of your opportunities! Fortunately, because the fantastic level of physical and hormonal changes occurring in your daughter will often turn her into a raving lunatic. My husband and I could often be overheard whispering to each other, " I think it's safe...she's been quiet for 20 minutes, I think she's asleep!"

I'm hopeful that we can find some time and means to connect with each other while I'm not preoccupied with the stresses and demands of work and she's relieved of her hectic schedule.

To help our odds, I'm going to:

SHUT UP & LISTEN There have been numerous times over the last year that she's started talking to me about some issue about her personal life and then completely shut me out when I asked a question or made a comment.


LET THE KID IN HER STILL BE A KID
She works so hard during the school year, having inherited my competitive drive. Her grades are fantastic and with participating in two sports as well as band, she is always on the go, go, go during the school year.


REMEMBER WHAT IT WAS LIKE WHEN I WAS 14
She's a good kid, responsible with common sense. I'm going to give her space and freedom to make her own choices. Help her to learn to balance while I'm still so close so she's ready for the responsibilities just around the corner.


I AM NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LESSER THAN FIRE, GOING TO LOOK IN HER ROOM.
Well, I might spray some Lysol in there occasionally. Seriously, I don't know how a person can live like that. I might have to post a picture. Befuddling, as she is such a fashionista, but in the grand scheme of things, in the interest of positive relations, I just not going to look.

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Wish me luck!

















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3 comments :

Colleen @ MuralMaker&More said...

What a great post! I love your suggestions. I'm done w/teenagers. I raised 3 stepsons. With the last one, I don't think one weekend went by where we weren't up in the middle of the night. Someone's son was missing, or some other drama.

Can't imagine a daughter! But your advice is right on. I kept remembering what I felt like as a teenager. Didn't stop me from yelling, but I did really try.

Thanks so much for the follow. Am following back.

Oh, I'm hosting a July 4 linky party for the next 3 Thursdays. Anything 7/4 works - crafts, decor, recipes, traditions. Stop by if you get a chance!

crazedmama said...

Hi there! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! .. I love this post. I'm soo not looking forward to the teenage years. Mine are still young right now (6 yr old and 5 yr old twins) but soon they will all 3 be teenagers at once! Hheellpppp!!!!

Health By Design said...

My youngest of 3 is a girl, and 15. The trials and and tribulations of my sons were small in comparison to the complexities and mood-shifts of my daughter. Sometimes it is hard to remember who she really is.

Thanks for the tips, I find the 'shutup and listen' one especially true. That, and unconditional love and never-ending support. We will emerge on the other side of this soon, right??

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