My life has been very enriched, quite rewarding, even blessed.
With a wonderful, very involved husband,
a brilliant, beautiful daughter,
a creative and caring son
and even a furry, four-legged son who still likes to snuggle with Mom, unlike his two-legged siblings,
I've been quite content.
Out of my desire to be more vocal on this topic,
more of an advocate for safety than a victim,
That's What She Said is partnering with SafeKidZone.com
to spread awareness,
to protect,
to prevent.
Since our tragedy occurred,
despite being professionally advised to not restrict my daughter's activities,
I am simply terrified when she is out of my sight, my protective reach.
SafeKidZone offers a downloadable cell phone app that will provide me with a greater sense of security, more peace of mind when I'm not with my children.
We bought our "diamond in the rough" dream house a couple of years ago,
we adore our neighbors and graceful neighborhood,
our school district is the epicenter of our community,
full of friends we've met as our children have progressed from grade to grade.
My husband and I both enjoy job security.
We are grateful to be able to offer children a variety of opportunities,
to expand their minds and horizons.
Pretty idyllic, right?
That was until almost a year ago,
when our lives crumbled,
our hearts shattered.
Ten months ago, almost to the day,
When our brilliant, beautiful girl
was raped.
There was no advance warning.
She has never been one to cause or get into trouble.
She didn't hang out with the "wrong" kids.
She is an honor students and has lettered in three sports.
We live in Middle Class Suburbia, USA.
We are YOU.
It is difficult to say if we will ever truly heal from the horrific experience.
Just when we get a respite from it,
a moment to breath, to concentrate on something else,
we are pulled right back in.
The case against defendant two (of four) begins a week from tomorrow.
Prior to now, I have maintained this blog as my "happy place",
my escape,
my normality.
However, as some degree of healing occurs, I am overwhelm with a need to protect more.
More communities,
more families,
more women,
more brilliant, beautiful girls.
The statistics are simply repugnant.
From RAINN (Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network):
On a similar, just as unsettling topic, from National Center for Missing and Exploited Children,
The U.S. Department of Justice reports
- 797,500 children (younger than 18) were reported missing in a one-year period of time studied resulting in an average of 2,185 children being reported missing each day.
- 203,900 children were the victims of family abductions.
- 58,200 children were the victims of non-family abductions.
- 115 children were the victims of “stereotypical” kidnapping. (These crimes involve someone the child does not know or someone of slight acquaintance, who holds the child overnight, transports the child 50 miles or more, kills the child, demands ransom, or intends to keep the child permanently.)
[Andrea J. Sedlak, David Finkelhor, Heather Hammer, and Dana J. Schultz. U.S. Department of Justice. "National Estimates of Missing Children: An Overview" in National Incidence Studies of Missing, Abducted, Runaway, and Thrownaway Children. Washington, DC: Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice, October 2002, page 5.]
Out of my desire to be more vocal on this topic,
more of an advocate for safety than a victim,
That's What She Said is partnering with SafeKidZone.com
to spread awareness,
to protect,
to prevent.
Since our tragedy occurred,
despite being professionally advised to not restrict my daughter's activities,
I am simply terrified when she is out of my sight, my protective reach.
SafeKidZone offers a downloadable cell phone app that will provide me with a greater sense of security, more peace of mind when I'm not with my children.



5 comments:
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Wow I am so sorry about the tragedy that happened to your family but also to your daughter. I was raped in college and it was/is a horrific experience...one I live with everyday. Although it happened over 10 years ago there are still times when I find myself thinking about it and being scared. I will tell you though, it does get better. The being scared constantly, remembering the incident etc gets better, but it never truly goes away. Anyways, thanks for letting us know about this awesome App. I just might have to look into it. One of my nightmares is something happening to one of my children and me not being able to do a single thing about it.
Thank you for sharing your story. *hugs* to your family!
(Maria at change-diapers, still can't comment on blogger blogs!)
Thank you for sharing your story, it is stories like that that no matter how painful they are for you and your family (which I pray for you all to have continued strength) help those be aware. It is people like you who have the strength to use their voice and continue through the pain to get the word out that the safety of our children is most important and that we really can not ever be to prepared. I am not at that stage with my kids yet as they are all under the age of 6 but I do think about when I have to let them go out in the world and I don't like to, I like to tell myself they will be home with me forever.
Thank you again for sharing your story and God Bless you and your family.
Sexual abuse is defiantly a form of bullying. I couldn't stand what I was hearing on the radio and TV about all the abuse teens were dishing out to each other. I had been working with teens since 1992 so I wrote a book to try and reach more of them. My book was dedicated to a young man where I live by the name of Seth Walsh who took his life while I was finishing my new book. There are skills that we all need to know. In my new book Words Hit Hard as a Fist With 18 Tips on How to STOP being Bullied, I teach kids how to "take the bull by the horns." I share informatio¬n on how to communicat¬e clearly so others don't take defense, I explain what boundaries are and how to draw the line, and how to gain teen-estee¬m. I give advice on acceptance and tolerance, as well as informatio¬n about 24 teen challenges¬ all teenagers will face, I give resources and I share a hotline for quick advice. You can get it at Balboa Press, a Division of Hay House or Amazon or download it. The weekend of Nov. 11th, in Tampa Florida, My books will be displayed at a Hay House publishing conference, called, “I Can Do It!” My goal is to get a copy into every Middle and High School Library. www.theleadershiplady.com Thank You for sharing your story, I send you healing thoughts.
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